Forget relationships and learn how to relate.
Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted — that’s what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, and the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either! It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.
To think that you know your wife is very, very ungrateful. How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, not things. The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today. So much water has gone down the River Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different. Relate again, start again. Don’t take it for granted.
Bhagwaan Rajneesh
from Love, Freedom, Aloneness; The Koan of Relationships