You Don’t Need to Convert Others

If people are determined to convert others into their mold, then they are attempting to reassure themselves by using the convert to relieve their doubt. The bodhisattva is not concerned with conversion. Bodhisattvas respect others’ lifestyles, speak their language, and allow people to evolve according to their nature rather than trying to make others into a replica of oneself.

It requires discipline to avoid converting people. The bodhisattva might experience a strong impulse to tell people how things ought to be. But instead of acting on those impulses, the bodhisattva recognizes them as an expression of your own insecurity. You no longer need that kind of reinforcement.

Chogyam Trungpa
from The Myth of Freedom and the Way of Meditation