Changing yourself is the answer
“Work on yourself and never react to the condition. This is the freedom you’ve got from dharma and karma. When you begin to see the truth in yourself, automatically you will be picked up by the Power That Knows the Way, and you’ll be placed in a position or place where you are supposed to be at this time. This is why I tell you so often, there are no mistakes.
It appears complicated to the finite mind, but you are in your right place, going through those experiences that are right for you at this time. Only if you are thankful and you bless the position, you’re in, do you become a higher being, do you lift yourself up, and finally you find liberation. But it begins and ends with you. Never pray to God for release of your problems. Never pray to God to change your life, and to give you something better. This is wrong prayer. If you have to pray to God, pray to God to give you the strength and the wisdom and the courage that you need to be able to handle the situation that you’re in. This is correct prayer. Do not try to change anything. Be yourself. Work on yourself.
Begin to see things in a new light. See your situation differently. There are no bad things, there are no good things. But thinking makes it so. Stop thinking of the extremes, good and bad, right and wrong. Rather look at yourself in the moment. Stay centered. See yourself as a Divine Being, an Infinite Being, totally free and liberated. Do not feel sorry for yourself because you are in a position and in a situation you don’t like. This just holds you there more. And again, as we mentioned before, even if you run away from a situation, you will attract some of the circumstances elsewhere. Running away is never the answer. Changing yourself is the answer. (p. 185)”
― Robert Adams, Silence of the Heart: Dialogues with Robert Adams