If we hold ourself in high esteem, we shall be reborn in the lower realms
And later, as a human, experience low status and a foolish mind;
But if we transfer this esteem to others, we shall be reborn in fortunate realms,
Command respect, and enjoy good company and pleasant surroundings
If we use others for our own selfish means,
We shall experience servitude ourself;
But if we use ourself for the sake of others,
We shall enjoy high status and pleasing forms.
All the happiness there is in the world
Arises from wishing others to be happy.
And all the suffering there is in this world
Arises from wishing ourself to be happy.
Shantideva
from Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life